I don't know what happened to all those Poker Wives who just disappeared from the blogosphere after writing a couple of posts, but I better keep writing. Nothing special to say today... me and Josh have been apart for 2 weeks, he's been at his beach house (I'm writing this and thinking "yeah, this sounds bad", so I'll add) he's got his computer with him and has been playing (or so he claims).
He'll be back tomorrow and I'm getting a little anxious about how things will work out with our new "stay-at-home-husband" arrangement. I'm not sure how I'll feel, if I will still feel used or if we'll reach some kind of balance.
I'm also anxious about his trip back home and that something might happen to him. This sounds crazy, but I have these worries from time to time, that something might happen and he'll die from a freak accident or something. I read somewhere that women have this kind of "worrying gene" or worrying part of their brains, which makes us worry about stupid things, while men can live their lives much more peacefully. This sucks.
Anyway, just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has been commenting or even emailing me with advice. I've come to the conclusion that if I'm going through this with Josh is not because I don't know what I'm doing, but because I believe he has a chance. And for now I'd rather live with a successful poker player than with a McDonald's employee (no offence, it's just a personal choice). I know things can go seriously wrong, but they can also go extremely well.
And I want to see him go through whatever difficulties he has to and then come out clean on the other side. I want to be able to tell people "hey, he's done it, he finally had a great couple of years, he paid me back everything he owed and is now making some serious money on the bankroll he alone put together". Or "hey, I followed my heart and ended up choosing the right guy after all and we're happy". Or "hey, miracles do happen!". You get the point.
Just dreams for now.
xoxo
Andrea
And for now I'd rather live with a successful poker player than with a McDonald's employee (no offence, it's just a personal choice).
ReplyDeleteAndrea then whats the problem, stop complaining if he is a successful poker player. What this guy is is a professional conman. This guy will stay with you till the free ride is 100% over not 50% or 75% but 100% over.
There is no reason why this Josh guy can't work at Mcdonalds and still play poker till his poker roll is big enough to support his addiction. Have a great day!
Hmm I didn't mean Josh was a successful player, sorry if I didn't explain myself :\ I meant that I'd rather live with a successful poker player (in general, any successful poker player) than with a MacDonald's employee.
DeleteIn other words, I'd rather wait for Josh to become that player than to have him quit Poker to work in a job that will never give him a chance of making large sums of money.
You're right, he could do both things... well it seems that way, but his argument is that if he worked (even part-time), he wouldn't have enough time to dedicate to Poker and make his bankroll grow (6 to 8 hours a day).
Josh could play six to eight hours a day, work another four, and still have 10-12 hours to do whatever the heck he wants. You just choose to believe his lazy excuses
DeleteHe has a beach house? He must be doing better than you think he's doing if he can afford a beach house.
ReplyDeleteIt belongs to his family :) They have several houses around the country, not exclusively his, but he will inherit his part.
DeleteSo Josh is basically waiting for his parents to kick the bucket, nice guy, lol.
Deleteshit. josh is living the life.i had it all wrong bcuz i didnt have all the facts.joshs folks got money. lol.
DeleteJosh's parents are both dead, the houses belong to his grandmother, who raised him. He could have asked for his part of the inheritance when his grandfather died, but out of respect for his grandmother, he didn't. When she "kicks the bucket" he'll have money to pay me back, which is what we agreed on that legal contract we made when I borrowed the 5K.
DeleteLMAO.so he isnt paying u back with his poker skillz but when his grandmother dies. what a guy.
DeleteHi Andrea, I posted this question a few days ago, not sure if you saw it. I was wondering what has Josh been doing the in the past several years to improve as a professional poker player. This is an important question that needs some answers (for yourself), if you are pinning your future on a hope and a prayer that Josh will become successful one day. What he has done in the past 6 years is a very good predictor of what he will do for the next 60. If you want to discuss this offline, I will be more that happy to exchange emails with you.
ReplyDeleteJust to let you know my questions are not coming out of the left field, I have been playing poker professionally for the last 6-7 years. I also know a number of other professional players, both online and live cash game players. Some have been successful, some struggles, and some never had much of a chance.
Hi Pokerdogg, sorry, I believe I didn't see that question! What I can tell you about Josh's habbits is that he consistently plays at least 6 hours a day, except on weekends, when he only plays for about 3 hours. And sometimes (when he's loosing) he stops for a couple of days.
DeleteNow.. what he's doing to improve as a professional player, I don't really know. I don't know what you're supposed to do to improve, but maybe if you tell me I can say if he is or isn't doing the right thing...
Thanks!
Just like any other professional field, you have to study to get better. Does he read books on poker? Watch and study online instructional videos? Read online poker forums on strategies, post and discuss poker hand histories with good players?
DeleteThere is a fairly steep learning curve at the beginning, because there is so much to learn and information to absorb. If he is spending time improving his game, it should be obvious to you. My wife is into horses and is a riding instructor. I used to go to horse shows with her all the time, but in the first few years when I got into poker, I would always have a poker book with me to read at the show.
Oh, in that case yes, he's doing it :) He has several poker books that he's read in the early years and watches lots and lots of poker videos.
DeleteLast week I also bought him that book you guys told me about, "Poker Winners Are Different", it didn't arrive yet, but I believe he'll read it.
This blog is a level. Andrea is a dude desperately seeking attention. No way this can be real.
ReplyDeleteThat's what scores of people said about Tony Bigcharles over the years, and look where we are now...
DeleteSorry, no dude here. But it's funny that you think I write like a man :)
DeleteYou are digging you're own grave here... dump the bum already... tons of fish in the sea. Cut you 5K losses... honestly you are doing this to yourself... it's pretty pathetic... you are enabling him to do all these things.
ReplyDeleteAndrea! So glad I found this blog........even though it is a year later. I am going through the SAME EXACT thing with my bf of 8 years. He didn't graduate high school, so he is also limited in what he can do. But he works in the fishing industry and makes like $2500 a week - cash. Before we started dating, he was a very very very heavy poker player bringing in about $500 a week with online poker (back when they had to mail a check to you for the withdrawal :) Anyway, when we met, I had an 8 year old daughter that I was raising, pretty much on my own. A year later, he moved in with me. Working in the fishing industry, his season ran from May to November, so he would only "work" during those months. He spent Dec through April playing poker, but didn't really do well. He's always telling me how good he was at it before we met because he really didn't care about the money aspect of it as much then and there wasn't that much pressure. So, in other words, blaming me for not having a big enough bank roll to play the $5/$10 games anymore because we had bills to pay and a child to feed. I realize he made an entire year's salary in the months from May-Dec of about $80,000 but he also liked to spent alot too. We were never really financially well off. But we were above water. Now, the argument came in because I was always mad when he would spend money playing poker but he made significantly more money than I did and I work a full year from Jan-Dec ($40,000). So his salary was twice as much as mine. But his expenses were also almost double what mine were. Not only that, but he would go play poker "live" for like 72 hours straight at the casino. During which time, I was home, alone, angry because I couldn't reach him and not understanding "why????" If he wasn't at a live game at the casino, he was staying up until 7 am online playing sit and gos, or cash games, and would sleep all day because there was less action on the sites during the day hours. I would come home and nothing, I mean, nothing would be done. I worked full time and he was home, but I had to cook dinner, clean the house, do the laundry, etc. He would always tell me it wasn't "gambling" it was a game of skill. Admittedly, he was pretty good at it, but he wasn't this great poker player that he thought he was. Finally, he stopped playing for a long time........until now. His job is very physically exhausing. He gets up at 3:30 in the morning to be at the dock by 4:30 for a fishing trip that leaves for 48 hours and when he gets home, he is exhausted. He doesn't want to do it anymore and keeps telling me how unhappy he is. But that he keeps doing that job "for me" because now my daughter is 17 and we are facing college for her next year. But, he wants to quit his job and is convinced that he can make at least $120 per day playing poker, which would be about $800 per month, which is livable. It's not nearly what he makes now, but he would at least be "happy" doing it. I am so frustrated! I feel like he lives in a fantasy world with this poker thing. He hasn't won alot in the last 8 years, but he also hasn't really been serious about playing either. And everytime he plays an online tournament, he does always finish in a money spot. But the uncertaintly of it all is going to kill me. I can leave him, although I love him and don't want too, but should I? He pays his part and if we ran out of money he could definitely jump on another fishing boat......but as I said, the uncertainty of it all is just ovewhelming........SO I CAN TOTALLY RELATE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE POSTED.
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