Saturday, 14 June 2014

from playing too much to not playing at all

So... Josh has received his money and has spent the last few weeks investing part of it in antiques. He completely stopped playing poker and didn't add any money to his Poker Stars account, thank god.
 
He has also not yet begun to sell any of the antiques he bought (mainly lamps and small art objects). I'm a bit concerned about his lack of urgency, but since it's his life I can only offer some advice while watching him make his own choices. My step dad has also been helping him making the right purchases, so... at least I know he's not buying worthless stuff.
 
For now money hasn't been a problem, because of what he got from his family. But he'll have to make some on top of it soon. He has about a month before we go on vacations... let's see if he can sell anything by then... or if he restarts his routine at the tables.
 
About me.. I got a new job offer and am considering what to do with my life... I don't know what they're planning to pay me and not exactly sure on what the job will be, all I know is that it'll be far from home, although probably more interesting and with better career possibilities. More answers next week.
 
 
Hope everyone is doing good and enjoying FIFA World Cup!
 
 
 
xoxo
Andrea

7 comments:

  1. SWEET. good to hear he isnt donking off his money at the tables. GL on yr future job if it happens.World CUp????????????? SHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEIT every1 knows it is USA USA,baby!!!!!!!!!! and if we dont win .we will just bomb the shit out of that country looking 4 WMDs.how is my dog Frankie doing?????????? plz dont have him wearing no sweaters and such.

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    1. LOLOL well I hope you don't bomb us, our country is a wreck as it is! No sweaters for Frank, poor little guy, it's waaay to hot in here for that.

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    2. so u r in greece then?????????? LOL

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  2. Stumbled upon this blog! I love it!! Really interesting to hear the stories of the people behind the professional poker players. I'll definitely be keeping up with your adventures

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  3. Andrea! So glad I found this blog........even though it is a year later. I am going through the SAME EXACT thing with my bf of 8 years. He didn't graduate high school, so he is also limited in what he can do. But he works in the fishing industry and makes like $2500 a week - cash. Before we started dating, he was a very very very heavy poker player bringing in about $500 a week with online poker (back when they had to mail a check to you for the withdrawal :) Anyway, when we met, I had an 8 year old daughter that I was raising, pretty much on my own. A year later, he moved in with me. Working in the fishing industry, his season ran from May to November, so he would only "work" during those months. He spent Dec through April playing poker, but didn't really do well. He's always telling me how good he was at it before we met because he really didn't care about the money aspect of it as much then and there wasn't that much pressure. So, in other words, blaming me for not having a big enough bank roll to play the $5/$10 games anymore because we had bills to pay and a child to feed. I realize he made an entire year's salary in the months from May-Dec of about $80,000 but he also liked to spent alot too. We were never really financially well off. But we were above water. Now, the argument came in because I was always mad when he would spend money playing poker but he made significantly more money than I did and I work a full year from Jan-Dec ($40,000). So his salary was twice as much as mine. But his expenses were also almost double what mine were. Not only that, but he would go play poker "live" for like 72 hours straight at the casino. During which time, I was home, alone, angry because I couldn't reach him and not understanding "why????" If he wasn't at a live game at the casino, he was staying up until 7 am online playing sit and gos, or cash games, and would sleep all day because there was less action on the sites during the day hours. I would come home and nothing, I mean, nothing would be done. I worked full time and he was home, but I had to cook dinner, clean the house, do the laundry, etc. He would always tell me it wasn't "gambling" it was a game of skill. Admittedly, he was pretty good at it, but he wasn't this great poker player that he thought he was. Finally, he stopped playing for a long time........until now. His job is very physically exhausing. He gets up at 3:30 in the morning to be at the dock by 4:30 for a fishing trip that leaves for 48 hours and when he gets home, he is exhausted. He doesn't want to do it anymore and keeps telling me how unhappy he is. But that he keeps doing that job "for me" because now my daughter is 17 and we are facing college for her next year. But, he wants to quit his job and is convinced that he can make at least $120 per day playing poker, which would be about $800 per month, which is livable. It's not nearly what he makes now, but he would at least be "happy" doing it. I am so frustrated! I feel like he lives in a fantasy world with this poker thing. He hasn't won alot in the last 8 years, but he also hasn't really been serious about playing either. And everytime he plays an online tournament, he does always finish in a money spot. But the uncertaintly of it all is going to kill me. I can leave him, although I love him and don't want too, but should I? He pays his part and if we ran out of money he could definitely jump on another fishing boat......but as I said, the uncertainty of it all is just ovewhelming........SO I CAN TOTALLY RELATE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE POSTED.

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    1. Wow, I'm so glad this finally reached someone who can relate!!! Your situation, as mine, sounds very tricky. Should he quit his job and dedicate to poker, if he says he'll be happier and STILL put money on the table? Well yes, but what if he can't? Tricky. If you're absolutely positive that he can get his job back if things don't work out playing, then I guess you're safe. But it will be a new lifestyle, he'll work odd hours, as you know, and may have mood swings (don't know how he handles losses). Ultimately it's his decision, but I'm sure he'd like your support... ask yourself if that's what you want for your life and remember that no decision is permanent. You can give it a try, if he's really willing to go back to a real job if it fails.

      I think I'll take this opportunity to update the blog. I wish you the best, support your husband but don't forget about yourself and your own needs, some things are acceptable, others are not. I used to accept everything as long as I was with Josh... huge mistake.

      See you soon,
      Andrea

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